What do your mornings look like? Do you wake up ready to start your day or does your day escape you by the time your feet hit the floor? I imagine that’s more common than not. Woman are, typically, the CEO of households – organizing schedules, taking inventory of needs, and making sure everyone’s day goes as smoothly as possible. It’s estimated that women spend about 4.5 hours a week on unpaid household work (see CEO comment above). This is about twice that of men. As women, we strive to manage our days and household as well as we can. What about ourselves? In order to give our best, we need to be our best. This starts with carving out time in each day to invest in ourselves. Daily reflection is a habit of self-love. Daily reflection give you time to understand your current state and needs, your goals, and that little extra time needed to layout your schedule. It is a FANTASTIC habit to get into to supercharge your day.
The ripple effect of self-love
Have you ever heard, “if mama ain’t happy then no one is happy”? There is some sound truth to this. But what about, “if mama is exhausted, stressed, and doesn’t feel a sense of worth then the whole household suffers?” This isn’t a known saying but a reality in most homes. A mother’s state of mental health isn’t talked about enough, even though it’s the mother that can set the mood of her household. When a mother has an unmet need causing serious mental, emotional or physical strain, her household can be impacted. In severe cases, children can experience trauma, loneliness, and develop their own mental illnesses.
When we are in a good space, mentally, emotionally, and physically, we send a positive ripple effect throughout our households. This can bless and rejuvenate the minds and moods of our spouse and children. A strong mother relays security, love, peace, and an environment that her children can thrive in. You and your spouse are able to be the ying and yang that God designed. Your love can be uninterrupted, which can strengthen the foundation of a household. But this isn’t easy. Life gives no exception or pardons because of work load. Women must be able to process life’s challenges and pains, while balancing herself and the impact she has on those around her. Women have a HARD job. Thus, the need to take care of ourselves.
How to start
You’ll have to find what works for you. An example of my daily flow is waking up before the rest of the household because that’s the ONLY time I have to myself. I spend about 15 minutes doing a quick pick up (dishes, laundry, baby toys, etc.), while the coffee brews. Once that little ding goes off, I’m ready for my coffee time, my ‘me’ time. I don’t consider my time a selfish act per the reasons above (a.k.a. CEO of household, mounds of stress, etc.). We have to recharge some how!
For me, this quiet time is spent reflecting on my current state (mental, physical, spiritual), goals, to do lists, and most importantly, my spiritual life. It’s a quick break to ground myself in what is important and step away from the chaos, which, is necessary to keep my mind organized and my soul at peace. I want my time organized so that I can give my best to my husband and son. Again, your dedicated time might look different. This is to prompt you to start the habit! If you’d like to go deeper on this, visit this blog on morning routines!
You are worth the time!
This is still a daily struggle for me so please don’t mistake my effort for perfection! But, because I’m grounded in my faith and strive to please God with my day, I’m able to enjoy the daily challenge of ‘keeping it together’. In the end, I know my efforts are appreciated and noticed. It’s a labor of love and when I have my heart, mind, and soul in check, my household benefits. I love the verse in Proverbs 31:
“First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolling up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.”
So…not quite the same. I, for sure, stumble out of bed in an awful excuse for pajamas and getting ready for my day is no where near the forefront of my mind. But, I AM in an attitude of work and I AM ready to start my day. I’m excited and looking forward to advancing the tasks that God has blessed me with. How can you not be excited about that?!
Every day is a blessing. Every day is also chaotic and full of decisions and trials. I challenge you to have your own reflection time. Your own ‘you’ time. Time to breathe. Reflect. Be grateful. Pray. Give this time to yourself. It doesn’t have to be long. Even 10 or 15 minutes of quiet time will yield gains. Your household depends on it and you are, oh so, worth it! Remember, YOU are a lady well-loved.