We live in a fallen world and this seems to magnify and thicken the plot of our worst fears and pains that we endure. The minds and hearts of so many are damaged and distorted. We see the bad in the news and in our own lives: abuse, addiction, neglect, and the list of heartache continues. The saying, “hurt people hurt people” is a painful echo throughout our families and communities. At the center of this are the women of our world. The women who tirelessly trudge through their days. This blog is for you, Mama. When women are happy and whole, society benefits. Our households are stronger and our children thrive.
BUT LIFE IS HARD
If you have air in your lungs, you have experienced pain. Humans are at the top of the pecking order in every sense, yet, are so fragile and damaged – most of the time by each other. We share in pain physically, mentally and emotionally. You have battled this far in life and it is NOT time to quit. By regularly visiting this blog and other like-minded resources, you are showing that you can’t be held down by anything and that you desire more for your life and for your family. You are a warrior in your own sense.
YOU ARE BRAVE
You can’t change what has happened but you can change how you let it impact you. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Addressing past pains and working those towards resolution is very brave. What needs to happen for you to have resolution? Do you need to cut ties with someone, apologize to someone, confront someone? Forgive someone? Forgive yourself? You may already have a game plan but if you don’t or if you don’t know where to start, I encourage you to get help…
Friend #1: “Did she just say the word “help”?
Friend #2: “She did. Doesn’t she know that we’re woman and don’t get help?”
Friend #1: “Right! We like to burden ourselves until we buckle from the weight. Duh!”
Eww “help” the four letter word that women cringe at! Hear me out. Help you help yourself. Why? Because NO ONE else is going to do it for you and don’t get me started on those who would rather see you down and out then the strong woman you are made to be. Also, I don’t know about you but when I’m in the middle of a messy situation, the benefit of a third party perspective is just the leg up that is needed for me to get a handle on the situation.
Help can look different for everyone. It may be a walk in the park with just you and your thoughts. It could be calling a friend to come sit with you and visit. What do you need? If you are in need of a resource, such as a counselor, doctor, hotline, etc., then visit the Safe Haven page for quick access to a number of resources for women, family and children. Notice this includes women, family and children. Some situation within your household are beyond your ability to ‘fix’. That’s okay. We can’t fix everything but we CAN be resourceful and get the right help where needed.
There is this site called Seattle Christian Counseling that has a lot of great posts and even has a 24/7 line for chatting. Amanda, the author, has a three part series on Processing Emotional Pain that I found extremely helpful. Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 When you have time, take a walk through this. I’m sure you will find it very helpful with processing pasts pains.
For a little motivation to get you started, I found this short testimony from Tiffaney Malott on the ways she overcame her struggles.
“A better version of me was waiting on the other side.”
“You have grown up into the armor that you’re ready to wear.”
This chick is strong! So are you I hope you found this blog and these resources helpful and that you are motivated to take care of yourself – whatever that means. Most importantly, remember, YOU are a lady well-loved! Share this post with other ladies in your life that need a pick me up!
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