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I’m writing this around New Year’s Day, which is invigorating. Furthermore, it’s a moment of reflection and a communal effort towards a more fulfilling existence. We all become bravely motivated to start the new year with perfect strides towards better versions of ourselves. This is all very exciting until…well, it’s time to start. Then the real work sets in, the confusion and self-doubt starts to sink in, and the unavoidable roadblock makes its ugly appearance. Hence, the worst part, being the day you realize that you’ve forgotten what your resolution was. Anyone guilty of this?! *me waving my hands in the background*
It’s easy to become disappointed when you don’t reach your goals. These 3 quick fixes to keep you on track with your goals and move from failure to success. The first is understanding your goal and the steps needed to achieve, followed by creating sustainable motivation, and, lastly, being able to use failure as teachable moments.
QUICK FIX #1: understand your goal and layout steps
“What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.”Buddha
The energy around the New Year can suck you in. It’s a very exciting time. But, before you get fired up like a scene from a battle field, take a breath. All of this energy could set you up for epic failure by biting off more than you can chew. Please know, I am ALL about reaching for the stars. I am also about successful succession. Taking a life changing goal and breaking it into smaller steps is much more palatable for the long term and avoids burnout. For me, looking at a big-picture goal can be overwhelming and jolt me with a paralyzing fear that sends me back to my seat with ‘what were you thinking’ playing on repeat in my head.
It’s not enough to know what the goal is, but also, the steps to achieve it and in what order. You want your resolution to be achievable and strategically laid out. Doing so will make you feeling successful and motivated along the way. Think of your resolution. How can that be broken down into smaller steps? Maybe write those down somewhere in a list to be checked off because we love the gratification that comes from crossing things off!!! If you think it’s necessary, set timeframes for each item. This may keep you more on track with achieving your goal by the desired time. Also, iIF you want to dive into this more, check out this FREE resource that walks you through step by step.
QUICK FIX #2: create a mini vision board
“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.”Helen Keller
The New Year gives pause for the world to reflect. Although the exercise of reflection is very effective, a single occurrence will see short lived results. Out of sight, out of mind is a mantra that is useful regarding the junk drawer in the kitchen or the knitting project that is yet to be finished, but not when it comes to goals. Goals that are looked at sparsely are goals that are quickly forgotten.
It’s no secret that a friendly reminder helps keep us on task (i.e. sticky notes on the refrigerator or the to-go coffee next to your purse versus the opposite counter where it will inevitably stay when you leave for work. Seems like we use physical reminders in tactical situations but never when it’s personal, such as a personal goal. Therefore, we’re changing this now! A vision board is a physical reminder of your goal. It’s a source of motivation and a sense of direction. Because you have to know what you’re aiming at! This does not need to be complex. A vision board can be as elaborate or simple as you choose to make it.
Steps to creating a vision board:
- Find pictures for motivation. Pinterest or a quick google search can provide images or quotes that are in line with your goal. You could also add lists or action items with boxes to check off.
- Print and collectively place somewhere. This can be as simple as cutting the pictures out and taping them to a larger piece of paper. Just a way to keep them all together. NOTE: this can be a work in progress so don’t postpone doing this until you get pretty print paper or new highlighters. You can upgrade later. For now, just focus on completion, as rough as this first round may be.
- Strategically place vision board. Does this need to be in your bathroom, closet, kitchen, bedside, or work cubical? Place this where ever it would be most effective for you.
- Adjust as needed. Make this a living project and update your pictures and quotes frequently to progress as you do. Also, this will provide a refreshed sense of motivation, which is always helpful!
QUICK FIX #3: understand failure
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”Thomas A Edison
New Year’s resolutions and goals are formed with good intentions, but are rarely executed long enough to see the desired result. This is unfortunate. Envision what your life would look like if you stuck with this resolution. THAT is what you want! But failure can be a deterrent and make you give up on your vision too quickly.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”Thomas A Edison
I felt this section is worthy of a second quote because 1) I love quotes 🙂 and 2) failure sucks! The feeling of disappointment that follows, the repercussions, etc. It’s all terrible. But we have to look at failure differently. Because, without doing do, we’re bound to hit our first road block and throw in the towel.
Fun fact, failure has two main definitions: lack of success and not doing an expected or required action. Most noteworthy, is that it does not say you’re a loser, you’re stupid, you can’t function in life, and don’t bother trying. This is important to call out because failure has a really bad rap but it’s failure where the majority of lessons and learnings are. Look at your goal. That…you’re going to fail at doing that and it’s okay because failure runs parallel to achievement. It’s understandable that there will be a moment of disappointment. Fine. Throw your fit but don’t let that moment carry on.
When failure comes, understand it by asking these questions:
How did this impact you or others around you?
How does this pull you away from your goal?
Why do you think it happened?
What was happening right before?
How are those things connected?
What could be done to prevent this from happening again?
Take a step back and reflect. Failure isn’t so scary when you realize it’s an opportunity to try again, but with more knowledge!
BONUS QUICK FIX: remind yourself of the purpose
This is important. Frequently, list 5 reasons you should stay on track and accomplish your resolution. Remind yourself that you are important and that your goals are important. We live in a crazy world and spend so much of our time giving to others. Give this to yourself. You are worth the effort! Good luck with your resolutions. I hope these quick fixes come in handy. Worse case, look into the mirror and say, “get it together, woman”!!! That might be just as effective – ha!!! Get excited for the New Year and for the growth you will experience. Remember, YOU are a lady well-loved.
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